Holiday Parties, Family Gatherings, New Year’s Eve – lots of pressure to have a +1 (Date/Partner/Boyfriend) for the holidays. But what do you do if you’re single and solo?
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Practical Tips for Surviving the Holidays Without a +1
By Michelle Maskaly, The Adirondack Chick
Being single during the holidays can be stressful. There are a ton of family gatherings, romantic jewelry commercials and the overly-hyped New Years kiss.
Here are some tips for surviving the holiday minus a “plus 1” and without emptying your entire wine cabinet.
Manage Your Own Expectations
It’s easy to get caught up in all the hype. Before the first invitation for the first holiday party of the season even arrives, take a step back from the situation and be realistic. The likelihood of meeting someone you truly want to date between now and New Years is not a wager I’d want to make during my next trip to Las Vegas. Give yourself some positive reinforcement that you will meet the right person, but that it doesn’t have to be by the time the clock strikes midnight on Dec. 31st.
You already know your Grandmother is going to ask in the middle of a family dinner where your boyfriend is, why you’re not married yet or when she is going to be a great-grandmother. Instead of it triggering a downward spiral that ruins your night, go into the family gathering knowing she is going to ask it. Have a creative one-liner prepared that makes it clear being single is your decision. Reply to her inquiry, and then move on to a different subject, adding there are more important things going on in the world than your love life.
Know Your Limits
Just because you get invited to an event doesn’t mean you have to attend. If you know your friend from high school’s party is going to be filled with couples and it’s going to make you feel miserable being there, politely decline the initiation. Putting yourself in a situation where just thinking about it makes you nauseous will just set you up for failure. Your time is too valuable to be doing something that’s not fun.
Easier said than done, but surround yourself with friends and family who you are 100 percent comfortable with and make you feel good. When you have others around you who are not obsessed with romanticizing the holidays, or always talking about their latest random romp in sack, it’s easier enjoy the holidays and have fun without worrying about whose hand you’re holding in line to go skating at Rockefeller Center.
Michelle Maskaly is an East Coast-based social media consultant, freelance journalist and lifestyle writer. She is the author of the food, travel and single girl lifestyle website, The Adirondack Chick and the pet lifestyle website, My Tail Hurts From Wagging So Much. Check her out on Facebook: Michelle Maskaly, The Adirondack Chick Twitter: @mmaskaly and @theadkchick
What girlfriend advice do you have for the holidays? How do you handle all the holiday parties as a single or double?
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