Do you work with one or more of your fab friends? Do you wish you could figure out a way to work with those women who are so important in your life? We want to know all about how you handle the work/friend relationship. What challenges have you run into? What tips do you have for all our girlfriends who might be in the same situation? You can put your thoughts in the comments below (I really do read them!).
Guest blogger and girlfriend CHRISTINE MADDOX shares some great advice about how to balance being professional with enjoying your friendship – something that’s not always easy or obvious.
Having girlfriends at work is a huge blessing. They can be someone to rely on, laugh with, and talk to during the long hours. However keeping work friendships alive can be harder than you would think. Here are some tips to be a good girlfriend coworker:
Keep Secrets – The most important part of friendships at work is keeping secrets. The boss and your other coworkers do not need to know what you talked about when you were both slightly tipsy this weekend. They also do not need to hear about your past exploits if you, for example, went to the same college together. Keeping secrets is the first step in being a good girlfriend coworker.
Work at Work – Many workplaces have different rules about how much ‘chatting’ is okay in the work place. However you should respect your coworker’s time and keep yourself from talking too much about topics unrelated to work. Although it can be fun to plan the next party or dish about the latest Facebook post, you should save it for breaks or lunch time and keep your mind on your work.
Share – One big thing that comes up when you have a friend at work is that other coworkers can feel excluded. Instead of making your friend your only work contact, make sure you allow yourself and your friend time to connect and make friends with your other coworkers and even your boss.
Keep it Professional – All friendships have rough spots, times when you are arguing or not getting along. However you should work to keep any animosity out of the workplace. This is not the time to bring up what they did wrong or have a fight in the middle of the office. Instead keep calm and stay professional. Work out your issues outside of the workplace and in private.
Make Time Outside of Work – A trap that many girlfriend coworkers fall into is seeing too much of each other at work. They think that spending time talking about work stuff is going to make their friendship last. However if you do not make plans outside of work then your friendship can’t grow.
These are just a few of the ways that you can be a great girlfriend coworker. Remember to stay professional in the workplace and make time to reconnect outside of work. Only then can you form long, lasting, and healthy friendships.
CHRISTINE MADDOX is pursuing her Master’s degree from University of Texas as well as blogging for www.4nannies.com. She loves to write anything related to parenting, kids, nanny care etc. She can be reached via email at: christine.4nannies @ gmail.com
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