We love great advice from savvy, successful women. And, of course, we love how their friends helped them get there.
September is a special month around Girlfriendology – it’s International Women’s Friendship Month (aka: #FriendshipMonth) and we’re celebrating with 30 great guest blogs filled with fabulous girlfriend advice and wisdom. The amazing Patty Brisben, founder of Pure Romance, shares insightful girlfriend advice for being a better friend.
Good girlfriends are like soul mates. They just get you. They understand what’s going through your mind when you’re upset he hasn’t called back, helped pay rent, or spent enough time with the kids. They get it when you just feel like you can’t take anymore or if you simply need to get out and let loose. Girlfriends can even feel like your other half sometimes. To my single girls out there, you probably understand that better than anyone else!
So what is this common denominator that great girlfriends have that makes them oh-so-wonderful? They are always there for us.
We hear it all the time. “I’m here for you when you need me. I’ll always be here for you.” But what does that even mean? What does “being there” entail? No one embodies “being there” better than your best girlfriends (and your mom, of course!).
Here’s my guideline for ensuring that you’re “there” for your best girlfriends:
1. Always respond promptly when she needs you. This is a no-brainer, but it’s one of the things women are best at. When we see a text or a missed call from a close friend, it’s as though an immediate alarm clock goes off inside. The worriers may think, “What’s wrong?” and the more positive amongst us may think, “Hmm, I wonder what she wants?” Either way, it’s practically built-in to respond quickly to the friends we love.
2. Be ready to talk about anything. Yes, anything. While some things are best left private, your best friend should be able to talk to you about anything. It wouldn’t be right to say, “I’m not sure I’m ready to hear this.” Whether your friend needs to talk about something as small as a holiday recipe or as huge as a sexual health issue, you need to be able to talk to her about it. If any topic does make you uncomfortable, lead her to sources or professionals that can give her sound advice.
3. Know when you need to be there in person, not over the phone. First off, if your girlfriend is crying or sounds panicked or scared, ask her if she wants you to come over. That’s a given. Also ask her if she’d like to come to your place or if, perhaps, there is somewhere else she’d like to meet. Friends are great at giving advice over the phone, but sometimes you need someone there to vent to in person. On another hand, there are also times when perhaps your friend has been feeling low for too long and you need to pull her out of her funk.
4. Celebrate her monumental moments…and every other Friday. If you are lucky enough to live in the same city as your closest girlfriends, always take time to be girls and have an evening to yourselves. Whether that means checking out a new restaurant together or staying in and gabbing over wine and cheese is up to you. What is important is that you take time to clear all the other stressors in your life and stop to enjoy one of the most beautiful things about life: friendship.
5. Tune into your intuition. A woman’s intuition is a powerful weapon and tool. If something feels off, call your friend. If you have a feeling something isn’t right, it probably isn’t. If you feel as though your friend is saying, “No, I’m OK, you don’t need to come over,” and really, she needs you to come over, do it. All of these sentences involve a “what if” situation. Your job as a girlfriend is to help your friends through every instance in which she’s calling out in some way, needing your help, trying to figure out the what-ifs.
This list might be second nature to you, but I urge you to rethink your role in your friendships and how you can make them even better. Life is full of ups, order klonopin online no prescription downs, and in-betweens. Girlfriends help you through, every step of the way.
PATTY BRISBEN is the CEO and founder of Pure Romance, Inc., the nation’s fastest-growing in-home direct sales company specializing in relationship enhancement products and intimacy education. In 1983, motivated by a desire to spend more time with her family, Patty got involved with an in-home party business, empowering, educating, and entertaining women. She quickly founded her own business, Pure Romance, which is now going global by opening markets in South Africa and Australia. You can find her blog at http://pattybrisben.wordpress.com
Thanks Patty for this GREAT guest blog. What Patty is too humble to mention is that through her successful business, she has been able to help countless women with their sexual health and has specifically offered support and education for women dealing with cancer and the effects it has on their sexual health – a much needed resource for women who just want to feel healthy and happy again. She also launched the Patty Brisben Foundation. A wonderful organization that is working to enhance women’s sexual health and well-being through research and education.
When have your girlfriends been there for you? Who do you need to call to check in with and see if you can be a better friend?
More sexual health information (and girlfriend advice!):
- Girlfriend advice on women’s sexual health from Pure Romance Rep, Tisa Powell
- BlogTalkRadio interview with Tisa Powell, Pure Romance Rep and the ‘ultimate girlfriend’
By the way, we LOVE guest blogs here at Girlfriendology. Have a great girlfriend story to tell? Want to celebrate your fabulous female friends? SHARE! (And, we also have Girlfriend Gurus – check that out to be featured on Girlfriendology!)
Note: It’s September – International Women’s Friendship Month (#Friendship Month) and we’re celebrating all month long! From this interview and guest blog by Miss America, to a month of women’s wisdom and 30 guest blogs, to our Newsletter Sign-up Contest and Facebook fun, and more! Don’t miss out on any of it! SIGN UP for our Newsletter and ‘Like’ us on Facebook to stay up to date with all the fun friendship festivities and more!
Our September Friendship Month Guest Blogs so far …
- Sept 1 – MISS AMERICA, Teresa Scanlan – The Importance of Friendship
- Sept 2 – Shasta Nelson, GirlfriendCircles – Friendship in Stages – Advice for more Meaningful Friendships
- Sept 3 – Kimberly Anderson, Kim’s Closet TV – Giving back to your community with a Friend
- Sept 4 – Lynn Gasior, Cabin Chicks – Girlfriend Memories and Traditions
- Sept 5 – Rachel Awes, Artist – The Art of Girlfriends
- Sept 6 – Flo Schell, Joyful Aging – Heartfelt Advice on Friendships
- Sept 7 – Cherie Burbach, author, About.com editor – How to Understand Your Girlfriend’s Health Problems
- Sept 8 – Susan Mallery, best-selling author – Three Lessons a Girlfriend Can Learn from Tim Gunn
- Sept 9 – Elizabeth Patch, artists, body image Girlfriend Guru – Conversations with Ourselves
- Sept 10 – Donina Ifurung, On High Heels – Girls and the Art of Togetherness
- Sept 11 – Jennifer Buehlre Williams, Mom / Journalist – A Mom’s / Girlfriend’s Point of View of 9/11
- Sept 12 – Shanae Miller, Single Southern Mommy – Girlfriend Advice from Deep in the Heart
- Sept 13 – Kristin Peoples, CouponScribbles – Five Ways to Organize for Back to School Frenzy
- Sept 14 – Kimberley Freeman, author – Mary-Rose and the Mountain, A Tale of Two Girlfriends
- Sept 15 – Julie Anderson, Oh! Shoes Brand Ambassador – Buying Shoes can Change the World
- Sept 16 – Renee Yemme, Girlfriend Guru Innergy – Girlfriend Advice for De-Stressing
- Sept 17 – Janet DeVito, Girls on a Cruise – Spending Time to Nurture Friendships
- Sept 18 – Miss Kitty Plum, Plums Lingerie – A Brief Guide to Panties, Girlfriend Guru
- Sept 19 – Steph Staszko, legal advice – Savvy Safety Tips for a Girls’ Night Out
- Sept 20 – Kandi Jaeger, uterine cancer advocate – Girlfriend Update from Uterine Cancer Survivor
- Sept 21 – Chrissy Scott-Hynes, Coupon Clip Shop – Start using Coupons to Save Money
- Sept 22 – Britt Michaelian, Social Media Girlfriends – Do Twitter Followers + Facebook Friends = Real Friends?
- Sept 23 – Cathy Perry, Real Estate Concierge – Girlfriend Advice for having your BFF as your Realtor
- Sept 24 – Patty Brisben, Pure Romance – Five Tips for Being a Better friend