Clean House and Make Room for Happiness
There was a point in my recent move when I realized that I wasn’t going to have room in the new place for all the “stuff” I’d accumulated over the years. So I went with something I saw on a reality show and separated the stuff into things to keep, things to sell or give away, and things to trash. Bottom line, I’m much happier with much less stuff – I don’t have waste time and energy and happiness worrying about clutter that doesn’t matter to my life.
My house de-cluttering was a lot like forgiveness. Few of us realize what a huge impact forgiveness has on our happiness. There is only so much room in our minds for thoughts. It’s like a house, and it can get filled up. If it’s full of resentment and grudges for others, there is less room for our happiness.
Unforgiving people tend to be hostile, angry, anxious, and depressed. Still hurt and betrayal is a part of life. We are after all human. But there are a lot of ways that we can learn to be more forgiving, and that’s better for everyone.
Here are a few simple things you can do to clean house – clear your mind of some old resentments and get them into the throw away pile.
1. Resentments are like old clothes. If you haven’t worn it in a year- get rid of it. Old grudges can often be the worst. Simmering thoughts of something buy generic maxalt online that happened long also that has absolutely no impact on your current life are taking up valuable space in your mind. When you realize it really doesn’t matter to you today, forgive the situation, move on, and make a little more room for your happiness.
2. Judgment is reversible, and an acquired, learned talent. We are not born with forgiveness in our hearts or really knowing how to forgive. Like almost everything else involved with increasing your happiness, there is some work involved. Remember you are judge and jury on your own happiness. When you condemn someone you condemn yourself. Pardons are a good thing.
3. I don’t believe in the axiom of forgive and forget. It is unquestionably possible to forgive someone without forgetting what caused the resentment in the first place. Forgiving is not about forgetting, it’s about letting go. While it may seem difficult, look for ways to give forgiveness by giving the benefit of the doubt; often we are hurt without the person hurting us realizing what they are doing.
One final word. The number one, most important person you should forgive is you. Think of how much room you’ll have for happiness when you let go of what you don’t like about yourself!
Practice a little forgiveness today girlfriend. Make some room for more happiness in your life.
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