What Girlfriend Traditions do you have? Any Book Club, Mom’s Group or Sorority Get-togethers? (Those count as Girlfriend Traditions!)
We’re on day three of the 12 days of friendship for our holiday celebration of the gift of female friendship. Today, Day 3 of the 12 Days of Friendship, we’re celebrating the gift of girlfriend traditions …
Tonight is our neighborhood Book Club. We’re a very friendly (we like to think!), non-stressful group of women who really like to hang out together, eat, drink and laugh. Oh, and sometimes we read a book! But not tonight!
Tonight is special. It’s our annual ‘Ornament Exchange’ party. We’ll all gather at Penny’s home, bring our appetizers, desserts and beverages (wine generally!) and an ornament to offer to the girls.
It’s a fabulous tradition of women sharing their lives and laughing a lot as we catch up on whose kid is doing what, the latest restaurant nearby or the funny stories that all women have to share with other women. (The above photo is from last year’s ornament exchange – we don’t go hungry!)
Our fun girlfriend tradition starts when we draw numbers and begin picking a package to open. Everyone watches as the ornament is discovered then passed around the room for full examination. Then, in true ‘White Elephant’ or ‘Dirty Santa’ fashion, the keeper of the new ornament may exchange it for a previous gift that was opened. It gets pretty heated as certain ornaments are desired by multiple women and there often are negotiations to secure the most popular ornament.
When we talk about one of the main benefits of female friendship being stress relief. I GUARANTEE that any stress from the day or life in general will be laid aside tonight by every woman there tonight. Concerns over finances, health, relationships, too much to do, etc. – all will be forgotten for at least a little bit as we genuinely laugh and enjoy spending time together.
That’s part of our ‘girlfriend tradition’ – just enjoying the time we share and our friendships together.
Never be so focused on what you’re looking for that you overlook the thing you actually find.
― Ann Patchett, State Of Wonder
Do you have a BOOK CLUB? If so, what are you reading? Any advice for other girlfriends who have girlfriends?
My girlfriend book club meets this week. We have three rules: 1. The books have to be in paperback/the library. 2. You don’t HAVE to read the book. (It’s a ‘no stress’ book club – we’re really there to see our girlfriends! Which leads us to …) 3. You just have to be there and have fun with your friends.
We love the girlfriend tradition of Book Clubs. It’s a wonderful ‘excuse’ to get the girls together on a regular basis and to enjoy life together.
So, in the spirit of Girlfriendology – and women sharing women’s wisdom, I asked the ‘leader’ of my book club to share her recommendations for book club selections. Thanks Judy for sharing this review for girlfriend book clubs:
Dr. Marina Singh is a medical researcher for a large pharmaceutical company. She is sent to Brazil to investigate the mysterious death of her lab partner. Marina meets Dr. Annick Swenson who is developing a fertility drug for the company. Dr. Swenson has found a tribe of women in the Amazon who are fertile all of their lives. She is hopeful that a drug developed will solve the problems of millions of infertile women.
Patchett has developed strong characters in Dr. Annick Swenson who is self absorbed but sympathetic; Dr. Marina Sing, who displays a complex mix of traits; and Easter, the endearing young deaf boy. The characters are true to life making good and bad decisions. Every character deals with something – greed, delight, righteousness, love or fear.
State Of Wonder explores the role of doctors in the lives of a native tribe. It asks the question of how far should a pharmaceutical company go in the development of a new drug. It also asks the question – Just because technology has developed to a point where we are able to do things, should we?
State Of Wonder is a great book club book because it raises so many possibilities for discussion.
Thanks Judy! See you this week at Book Club! (What are we reading this month? Austenland – check it out!)
What is YOUR Book Club reading? What’s your favorite Book Club book? Share and inspire!
Other great girlfriend traditions and book club recommendations:
Attachment is like holding on tightly to something that is always slipping through my fingers—it just gives me rope burn. ~Lam Surya Das
It’s all about perspective. How we look at life events, how we react and adjust to them, how we move forward–it all makes an enormous difference. Some of us move toward the new; others of us, facing the same event, move from the old. Those of us moving “to” must be careful not to entirely cut off the old; those of moving “from” need to open our arms to embrace the new.
Girlfriend Guru LISA SARICK reflects on moving–both emotionally and physically–in this blog about leaving girlfriend traditions. We wish her all the best during her move. And we can’t wait to hear about the next chapter of Girlfriend Traditions (the new version).
Years ago…back when I was with husband number 1, even,… my best, oldest friend and MoonGirl started a tradition of having a brunch on Christmas morning with us girlfriends and our significant others. We each bring food. We drink mimosas. We offer a blessing before we eat. We go around the table and express gratitude. We exchange gifts. But mainly we laugh and love and revel in the company of friends – in our chosen family. Afterward we go our separate ways, onto Christmas days and dinners with our blood relatives, our other families.
Last year I didn’t make it. My daughter was sick and we stayed home. They texted me a picture of them all sitting at the table. I cried. And THIS YEAR I am moving!…weeks before Christmas, a couple of hundred miles away. I’ve talked to the girlfriends about the brunch. Do I drive the five hours for brunch and then go back? What will we do about presents? Will it go on if I am not there? We are all kinds of scrambling and desperate.
This is what the yogis and Buddhists call “attachment,” and see as the cause of suffering. These traditions (and others, like the 12 Steps) recommend practicing nonattachment, allowing everything to be as it is and embracing change as the nature of life…but only if you want to be happy.
Buddhist teacher and author, Lam Surya Das said: Attachment is like holding on tightly to something that is always slipping through my fingers—it just gives me rope burn.
Ooh yeah, I feel the burn right now of moving away from my MoonGirls, of missing the brunch and any other gatherings they might have without me. At the same time, part of me is practicing nonattachment. I am open to a new adventure. I wonder if I can gather a circle of girls near my new home. I know that my original MoonGirls will always be my friends – we talk on the phone mostly anyway, I’m teaching them to Skype, and I love the idea of (at least) yearly retreats to be physically together! It’s all Ok really. I have wonderful memories and photos of many Friends’ Brunches. I have their love in my heart always.
Everything changes… and yet love remains. Some even say:
Only love is real.
Get your girlfriends together. Have coffee, brunch or wine, or go Christmas shopping with lunch included.
It is natural and important for women to gather! It’s part of feminine essence. We Thrive and Arrive with support of other women. The go-it-alone / make-something-of-yourself / be-independent mindsets are masculine in nature and can leave women feeling lonely, drained, and stressed…even if they bring ‘success.’
Sit in your girlfriends’ company at some point this holiday season, and take Love and Joy into your being. Then make it a regular habit, at least once a year.
LISA SARICK (A.K.A. Rev. Lisa) is an Interfaith Minister, Yoga Instructor, and Spiritual Guide. She guides people seeking peace to go beyond the limits of their minds to the freedom of their spirit. She holds 1-on-1 sessions, officiates ceremonies, and founded Moon Circle, an online gathering for women friends. Her home on the web is LisaSarick.com.
Thanks LISA! And thanks for sharing these other Girlfriend Guru blog posts: