The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.
What are your friendship goals for the coming year?
Why do you need friendship goals?
Okay, back to the basics: The benefits of female friendship are it makes women healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful. Really. Those are pretty impressive benefits for something that does cost a fortune or require a royal title. (And, with stress being the #1 element in most primary care visits, reducing our stress alone would make female friendship the ‘magic pill’ for women’s health!)
So, being a better friend means you get to reap the rewards of friendship with happy memories, a healthier life and fun friends to spend your time with. And, it’s also cool that the benefits are unlimited so you can spread the girlfriendship great karma to lots of friends so they’re healthier, happier, less stressed, etc. too!
Knowing that we have to set goals to accomplish them … we’re challenging our girlfriends and ourselves to make friendship resolutions for 2012. What goals can you set that will strengthen your friendships? What can you do this year to make more time for your friends, share fun times together and be more thoughtful?
We asked a few of our ‘expert girlfriends’ for their New Years Resolutions and they shared:
IRENE S. LEVINE, (shown above – see how beautiful friendship makes her?!) aka: The Friendship Doctor and author of Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup with Your Best Friend (visit her blog posts at: Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and Life Goes Strong) shared:
My friendship resolution is also a life resolution. I hope to become more mindful at spending my time on the people and things that are most meaningful to me.
SHASTA NELSON, CEO of the women’s friendship matching site GirlFriendCircles.com and author of ‘Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends‘, is writing her first book this year and pursuing funding for her company as ways of stepping more into her life work. You can follow her weekly friendship blog at Shasta’s Friendship Blog or on Twitter (@girlfrindcircles) (& another beautiful girlfriend!).
My friendship intention for the new year is to foster friendships with women who also want to play a bigger game in their life work in the new year. I don’t want to downplay my calling, stifle my ambition, or ever show up with apologies for simply living from a place of knowing. But I think we often limit ourselves because we lack the support or fear the insecurities of others? This year, I am starting a monthly group of business women where we commit our support and cheers. And with my current friends, I am committed to holding space to witness their growth, affirm what I see, validate their service in this world, and help give voice to their courage.
What are YOUR friendship goals for the new year? How can you make your friendships stronger, meet new friends, share lots of great memories together in the New Year?
Here’s some great girlfriend inspiration by Shasta and Irene:
- How to make yourself a ‘keeper’ Friend, by Irene Levine
- Getting over a Friendship Drought, by Irene Levine
- Mending a Broken Friendship, by Irene Levine
- Throw a Girlfriend Gratitude Party, by Shasta Nelson
- Frientimacy – the Intimacy of Female Friendship, by Shasta Nelson
- Breast Cancer and Friendship / Girlfriend Advice, by Shasta Nelson