Summer Ideas for Girlfriend Get-Togethers

Summer Ideas for Girlfriend Get-Togethers

Summer Girlfriend IdeasEvery Summer has a Story – make yours about Super Summer Girlfriend Get-togethers!

Summer means warmer weather, kids off of school, vacation time with family or friends, trips to the beach or pool, kicking back with the girls outside, and finding a multitude of creative way to cool down with our besties. Best part? Time for some great summer girlfriend get-togethers!

It’s months filled with celebrations that kick off with Memorial Day and don’t officially call it quits until the sunset on Labor Day. Summer hosts 4th of July fireworks, picnics, parades, swim parties, camp-outs, barbecues, watermelon, fried chicken, ice-cold drinks, ice cream and marshmallow roasts. There’s Summer Solstice and long days for memorable moments with friends. There’s a whole lot of summer before the dreaded back-to-school commercials start!

Gather up your closest companions for these hot summer ideas for girlfriend get-togethers.

  • The fastest way to cool down on a scorching summer’s day is with water. Meet together at a waterpark, or if you’re lucky enough to have a girlfriend with her own backyard pool, converge poolside listening to your favorite tunes and catching up on life without worrying about how you look in a bathing suit.
  • Have an ice cream sundae party where everyone brings their favorite topping.
  • Cool down over healthy smoothies. Either meet at your favorite Smoothie cafe’, or have everyone bring their favorite smoothie recipe and ingredients to make your own.
  • Go all out and plan a getaway for a girls’ weekend, plan a full-fledged beach vacation, or sit down and plan a girlfriend getaway during the offseason after summer is just a memory.
  • BBQs and summer go hand-in-hand. Select your favorite meats or veggies and cook outside. While you’re waiting for the food, enjoy some backyard games or just chill on the deck or patio with girl-to-girl conversation.
  • Summer days are warm, but summer nights sometimes have enough of a chill to enjoy a good backyard bonfire where you can sit around the fire and roast marshmallows, or make S’mores. Conveniently, August 10 is National S’mores Day, which is during the month when summer begins to wind down. Mark your calendars and get the graham crackers, chocolate bars, and marshmallows ready.
  • Go on a picnic, explore your own city, or hit the bike trails for some exercise and time together.
  • Plan a girls-only float trip with canoes on a river, kayaks or paddleboats on a lake.
  • Go to the zoo or other outdoor attraction.
  • Host a photo scavenger hunt at a mall or around town. Bring your cameras, and add some fun by posting the fun on social media. Don’t forget to create a #Hashtag!
  • Sip iced tea together on a porch swing and talk with just one or two of your closest buds.
  • Host your own movie night just for the girls. Find a great chick flick all the girls will love! Stay inside in air conditioning or project a movie on a sheet outside and create an outdoor theater.

The most important thing about summer is finding those moments to make memories with your girlfriends! Don’t let the summer pass you by – start planning fun summer girlfriend get-togethers and creating girlfriend traditions that you’ll enjoy into future summers. Make the story of your summer about awesome memories with great girlfriends!

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25 Great Girlfriend Gifts under $25 | Birthday Gifts, Christmas Gifts, Hanukkah Presents

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25 Girlfriend Gifts under $25, gifts for womenMake your Girlfriends feel as special as their friendship is to you with these 25 Holiday Girlfriend Gifts under $25!

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The holidays are the perfect time to show your girlfriends how much their friendship means to you. So, we’ve got 25+ girlfriend gift ideas for Christmas gifts, Hanukkah presents, Birthday gifts or a surprising way of saying ‘thanks for being my friend’ – all gifts under $25. Show your BFF how much special she is to you with a special gift!

  • MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS – A year of reminders of your friendship and your thoughtfulness. Give her the gift of something she loves like a magazine about her favorite
    hobby or passion – like Women’s Day for just some helpful info and inspiration ($5/year!), Women’s Health because you want her to be healthy and around in your life for a long time ($16), First for Women with 17 issues of helpful tips and coupons ($20), or something for a favorite hobby of hers – Beadwork magazine for your jewelry loving friends, Sew Beautiful for the seamstress sister ($24.99!), Women’s Running for those fitness friends ($20), and, for your gourmet girlfriends and foodie friends –  Cooking Light ($18), Everyday with Rachael Ray ($15) and Food Network Magazine ($18). (And, more than $25 but my FAVORITE craft magazine – Crafts Magazine from England – $75/year but worth it!) More Magazine Subscriptions.
  • StarbucksCOFFEE TALK – I love the conversations I have with a girlfriend over a cup of coffee (or glass of wine). Even though my girlfriend Deana and I live in different cities, we’ve been known to make a coffee talk date and go to our favorite STARBUCKS, then call each other over our lives over our favorite caffeinated or decaf beverage. Give her a gift certificate for Starbucks and a promise to share it with her in person or over the phone. Just do it – spend time together! Starbucks Card, the perfect way to treat a friend or treat yourself. Or check out this Coffee Treats Gift Basket with Too Good Gourmet Cinnamon Cookies, Almond Biscotti, premium Coffee, Butter Toffee Popcorn, decadent Chocolate Truffles and fine Ghirardelli chocolates.
  • FLOWERS – Something about a surprise gift of flowers can brighten any day. LOVE these by 1-800-Flowers called ‘Cupcake in Bloom‘ ($24.99). Perfect for a long distance friend whose day you just want to brighten, to a birthday surprise, to a happy way to say ‘I’m thinking of you!’ More flowers under $25.
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25 Cheer up Texts for Friends – Girlfriend Inspiration

25 Cheer up Texts for Friends – Girlfriend Inspiration

25 Texts to cheer up a friendNeed a cheer up message for a friend? Want to send an encouraging text to cheer up your friend? You’ve come to the right place!

 “When it rains, it pours … but soon, the sun shines again. Better days are ahead.”

That just might be the cheer up text that a friend needs to receive.

When you love someone as a friend (or more than a friend), you want them to be happy – right? Sometimes that isn’t the case when they’re going through tough situations or just dealing with more than they’d like. It might be just a bad day, or a sad day, or a rough month/year/decade. What’s important is letting her know that you’re there and that you care. Our friends look to us for encouragement and support – let’s be the kind of friend who provides it! Let’s be the friend who sends cheer up text messages!

Cheer up friendship sms quoteSeems like everyone sends texts/IMs these days. Within a minute or two, you can brighten her day, make her smile, and let her know you’re thinking about her. You can command Siri (or whomever) to write it for you (well, you do have to say it). You can send her an inspiring quote (see ideas below or check out these quotes) or a funny photo/emoji (app below). There are lots of ways you can use technology, apps, SMS/texts to be a better friend and cheer up a friend – which is our goal here on Girlfriendology! (Here’s another 25 text messages to cheer up a friend!)

Copy from the following Cheer Up Text messages / SMS / IMs or share the quotes/images. Or personalize these cheer up messages to your girlfriend. The only thing that really matters is that you show her how much you care and how you’re there to cheer up your friend!Cheer up SMS Text IM

25 Cheer up Texts for Friends:

1. Just tell her you’re thinking about her: “Hope things are good for you today. Know I’m here and I care. Love you!” might be all that it takes to cheer her up!

2. Cheer up IM SMS Text emoji thinking about youEveryone likes to feel admired: “I don’t tell you often enough, but you really are amazing and very special to me. Thanks for being my friend. I’m here if/when you need me.”

3. Everyone loves a compliment, right? Make her feel pretty and loved with a text/IM like: “I hope your day is as nice as your butt” – or something equally silly 🙂 (Love this keychain that says that – would make a great cheer up gift 🙂

4. Short and sweet: “You’re in my thoughts (and prayers). Hang in there!”

5. Acknowledge the tough situation: “I know – life isn’t fair sometimes. I’m here and I care.

6. Send long distance love: “Distance can’t separate us. You’re close in my thoughts and prayers.

7. Be honest: “Unfortunately, there’s no way around sadness, but through it. I’m here and will be whenever you need me.Cheer up SMS IM text you can do it

8. Just a simple reminder: “No matter how tough things are, I have so much faith in you. You are amazing and will be okay.”

9. Send a fun personalized emoji Girlfriend i love you this much emoiji(App info below) to create a fun reminder that you: “I love you THIS MUCH!: (Sent by my BFF Cath)

10. Remind her that SHE CAN DO IT with a graphic like this one –> (Made with the app below)

11. More emoji’s: Cheer up! or ‘Thinkin bout you’ (Plus, she’ll love seeing your personalized emoji!)

12. Sometimes we all lose faith in ourselves. Remind her that you never question her strength with a short but so cherished message of: “Just so you know, I have faith in you. You’ll be okay. You’re stronger than you know.”

13. Send a fun photo that you have of her and you together. Tell her how much you value her and her friendship.

14. Completely make her day! Tell her three things you love about her, like: “I love how you go after your dreams like the 100-mile bike ride you did! I love how you work so hard to make your community better. I love how you make me laugh when we talk. Thanks for the gift of your friendship!”Start your free trial now!

INSPIRING QUOTES TO SHARE:

15. “When it rains, sometimes it pours. The sun always comes out again and it will. Better days are ahead.” – use the graphic above.

16. Share this scripture for Christian Girlfriends:  “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” Romans 8:28

17. Or this scripture:  “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord.  Plans Life doesnt have to be perfect friendship inspirational quoteto prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

18. Or this scripture:  “Rejoice in our confident hope.  Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” Romans 12:12

19. Every day on Instagram.com/Girlfriendology we post beautiful friendship quotes and you can send them to friends. Just find a quote that you like, and send it to any of your friends on Instagram. Like: “You yourself, deserve love and affection as much as anyone in the entire universe.”

20. Send these quotes to friends (available on the Girlfriendology Instagram page too): “There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you know.” (Winnie the Pooh – was a very wise bear!)

21. A great, inspiring quote for a great, inspiring cheer up SMS / Cheer up Text: “Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful” Annette Funicello.Friendship quote a true friend is there for you

22. Remind her that you’re a true friend with this friendship quote: “A true friend will be there for you when she’d rather be anywhere else.” Tell her that you’re there for her – no matter what!

23. Share this quote and tell her how much you enjoy her friendship and wish for her happiness:It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy that makes HAPPINESS.

Don't let yesterday take up too much of today friendship inspiration quote24. Remind her, like the image below states, to: Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today. 🙂

25. Cheer up a friend with this quote: “Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.” Charlie Chaplin

So, that’s 25 texts to cheer up a Friend. What texts cheer you or a friend up? Share below!

* I used BITMOJI (app) to create these personalized emoji messages. It’s a fun, creative app that lets you easily send a personalized cheer up text! She’ll love seeing you pop up in her texts/IMs.

What’s your favorite App for sending cheer up texts to friends? How do you encourage your friends? Share below!

(Here’s another 25 text messages to cheer up a friend!)Cheer up text nothing is permanent

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Show your love, encouragement and support with these cheer up gifts for friends!Cheer up book girlfriend gift

Cheer Up Book – “A fun compendium of happy quotes that will help lift anyone out of the dumps

Hang in There Cheer UP Gift BasketHealthy and unique gift basket is full of nuts and seeds to help boost spirits naturally – Who knew? Or this Cheer Up Healthy Gift Basket – and in case of emergency, send her this AWESOME CHOCOLATE Gift Basket 🙂

FUN Cheer Up Wine Label Set – sure to bring a smile to her face!

Chicken Soup for the Girlfriend’s Soul: Celebrating the Friends Who Cheer Us Up, Cheer Us On and Make Our Lives Complete

Keep Hangin’ In There Care PackageFilled with indulgent treats, two plush monkey friends, and a puzzle book for pleasant distraction, this gift box is sure to make your friend grin as she squishes the smile right off the happy stress ball’s face:)

And, eCards full of encouragement and support! Like these …

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Girlfriend Advice on Living a Grateful Life

Girlfriend Advice on Living a Grateful Life

Gratitude quote JFK piThanksgiving comes but once a year, but living with a daily attitude of gratitude is actually good for your health. Science has shown that the chemistry in our brains actually change when we complain and when we compliment. So, kick negativity to the curb, and enjoy some …

Girlfriend Advice on living a Grateful Life:

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy

Say thank you. Make an effort to thank people with a simple two word, “thank you.” Did someone open the door for you? Say thank you. Did the waitress bring you a meal? Say thank you. Did your girlfriend do something that made you happy? Tell her thanks. Don’t stop at casual thank you’s. Make an effort to call someone up just to say thank you.

Besides telling others thanks, verbally, spend some time each day speaking out loud and listing the things that make you happy and the people for whom you’re most grateful. Those who are in touch with their spiritual side already do this as part of daily prayer. It may feel unnatural at first to audibly declare a list of what you are thankful for, but hearing yourself list off item, by item actually makes it more believable that you really are grateful.

Pay it forward and volunteer to be a part of random acts of kindness every day. Research has shown that the act of volunteering produces a rush of endorphins in the brain similar to what occurs during exercise. Instead of a runner’s high, it’s time to have your own little party of thankfulness whenever possible. Though, don’t forfeit exercise entirely. People who regularly get physical are less prone to depression and falling into other unhealthy pitfall habits.

Select a colorful pen, and keep a Gratitude Journal. Writing down your thoughts releases the stress of trying to remember and helps you focus on happy times. Jotting down daily thoughts won’t come naturally for some. If that’s the case, make a concerted effort to get in the habit of gratitude journaling every day. When you end up with a bad day, pull it out and read all the funny and uplifting thoughts you took the time to write about.

Spend time with girlfriends who make you smile. Reverse the idea that bad company corrupts good character and cultivate an attitude of gratitude versus negativity among friends. Thankfulness works like a magnet to gather others toward you, so don’t be surprised if your circle of friends starts to grow stronger and broader when you begin to live gratefully among friends.

Don’t limit your gratitude to the happy moments. Be thankful when things didn’t go the way you had hoped. Give thanks through the negative things in your life, accepting that everything is working together for your good. A popular internet meme says, “life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” It’s not a mere cliché. When you look back over your life, it’s quite often the negative experiences that built character and made you who you are.

Practice till you get it right. If you’re not accustomed to feeling gracious, it’s time to learn a new skill. New skills take practice to perfect. Use this helpful girlfriend advice on living a grateful life. Extend mercy and grace when you fail at being thankful, and use it as a starting point to getting back on track for more gratitude practice.

 

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How to Help a Girlfriend go After Her Dreams

How to Help a Girlfriend go After Her Dreams

How to Help a Girlfriend go After Her DreamsHow to Help a Girlfriend go After Her Dreams

It echoes in your head, “Reach for that stars, and follow your dreams!” Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have someone standing in the wings of your life’s stage cheering you on and turning that elusive “wind beneath your wings” song into a reality? If your own desires in life aren’t taking off, live vicariously through the dreams of your friend. If you’ve already arrived to see all of your big ambitions fulfilled, hitch a cloud and help a girlfriend go after her dreams.

You see it in her. There is a true passion that begs to burst out, but something is not allowing her to go after her big dreams. Maybe her passion is to launch her own business, she knows how to tell a great story and wants to publish her own book, or maybe she has incredible photography skills. Whatever her goals are, they will be easier met with the help of a good friend. Grab a hold of these helpful secrets that successful women already know to help her attain her dreams.

Be strong, be fearless, be beautiful. And believe that anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you. Misty Copeland

Get a pretty journal, and start jotting down ideas. Write down your desires and then create an outline or flow chart to be your road map to success.

Take practical steps to get it done. If her dream is to dance and sing on Broadway, but she’s never been on stage or taken a dance class, it’s time to start from the beginning. Get experience and build a resume’ to fulfill her dreams. Identify the tools around you that you already have at your fingertips and put them to good use.

Do what you love. The first step is realizing what her dream is. If she already knows, you are on the path to fulfilling her dreams. If she doesn’t have a dream, now is the time to help her set goals to end in success. You are her friend who knows her best. Be a mirror for her to reflect back the talents you see in her. Acknowledge the truth of her ambitions and bring them to fruition.

Find the courage to take a risk. Like the cowardly lion in the Wizard of Oz, she probably already has all of the courage she needs to go for her dreams, but she may not have the confidence to realize the courage she possesses. It’s your job as her friend to bring this out in her. Encourage her. Literally, instill courage in her by pushing her beyond any fear or doubt.

Don’t let fear and doubt take hold. The next biggest obstacle to overcome is to strike down fear and doubt before they take hold and shatter all potential dreams.

There will always be skeptics, but that doesn’t mean they have to direct your path. Silence the skeptics. Never take what a naysayer says to heart.

Step out and do it. Literally take the first step toward her dreams. This doesn’t mean abandoning her to set her free. Sometimes, she may need you to take the first step with her. If this involves raising funds, set up a crowdfunding campaign for your friend. She may just need a cheerleader to encourage and support her – be THAT friend!

Help her pursue her dreams and have no regrets.

Don’t worry about the future. Live in the moment, not looking back and not worrying about what the future holds. Instead, focus on what you need to reach your goals.

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Be a Better Friend to a Friend during Pet Loss

Be a Better Friend to a Friend during Pet Loss

How to be a friend when a girlfriend has lost a pet

We’ve covered how to be a better friend when a friend loses a parent or is dealing with cancer, but what about how to be a better friend with a girlfriend loses her beloved pup?

My BFF Terri (who is so thoughtful and sweet that she inspired this Girlfriendology blog) had a terrible tragedy over the weekend. She and her husband had to put their sweet, funny ‘puppy’ Monty to sleep. He had been dealing with seizures and medical issues for a while, but they’ve been patiently and thoroughly exploring all the options – yet the time came when there was nothing else to do.

As a woman who still misses our dog Stella (who we had to put down almost three years ago and still makes me tear up), I understand her pain and sorrow. (And, I cannot imagine the loss that a mother feels when losing a child or dealing with serious illnesses or disabilities in one’s own ‘flesh and blood.’ I cannot imagine.)

But the loss of a pet that was loved, that brought laughter and joy everywhere it went, that taught and practiced unconditional love and that made coming home always joyful (and, in this case, also gave great ‘kisses’!), is a sadness you experience to the depths of your spirit. (How could you NOT love a pup as cute as Monty above?!)

Thankfully we have our girlfriends to turn to in this situation, as we always do – thankfully! We asked you for your girlfriend advice on how to be a better friend to a girlfriend who just lost a pet and you responded (on our Facebook girlfriend page) with this great wisdom:

* April wisely shared: “Well, to me my pets are like my babies…so, losing one of them would be as bad as one of my children…this could be as bad to her … just be there for her.”

* Laurie, sadly, has experience and offered: “I had to put my dog AND my cat to sleep all within 2 weeks; I say to just listen when she wants to talk about him and frequently ask how she is doing.”

* Girlfriend Jeanne said: “I would praise her for doing the most difficult, but kindest thing a dog owner can do for their loyal companion. It is the sad contract we sign when we bring them into our lives and hearts…. but such joy they bring!” (I agree!)

* Laura commented: “I would just let her know that you are there for her when she needs something.”

* Rahjenna shared lots of great girlfriend advice: “Give her a soft shoulder to cry on and an open ear to listen. Then help her to be gentle and kind to herself. Anything comforting is wonderful – run her a hot bath with pretty smelling salts, make her chamomile tea, light some candles for her. Give her a foot massage with her favorite lotion, or even just a neck and back massage. Bake her some chocolate chip cookies or her favorite and eat them with some cold milk. Rent a comedy (like the Forty Year Old Virgin) and spend some quality time with her. Buy her a good book or a journal to write in to help her heal. And last but not least … when she is ready, do a ceremony for closure. Light candles and set up pictures of her beloved and express and acknowledge how much unconditional love her pet gave to her. Loosing a pet IS like loosing a child, and needs to be treated like such, because it hurts so very bad….I hope this helps some..”

* Sherry shared: “Let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk.”

* Lynne offered her girlfriend advice: “Just give space and time for her to talk – talk some more – sit and be silent and talk some more. She is grieving and it will take some time. I lost my Dog within 6 months of my Mom’s passing and what I remember most is the people who just sat with me. Nothing special – just those that were there and I didn’t feel alone in my thoughts. As well, … nobody tried to make it better. I remember someone told me that my Dog was well loved and everything I did or didn’t do for her was out of love and I felt so much better hearing that.”

* Linda has been there too and shared: “Just letting her know you care, try to talk to her about the good times she had with her, and how she enriched her life. Just the fact that someone listens and truly cares how sad you are meant a lot to me.”

* Pamela also has dealt with this feeling of loss and sadness. She commented: “There really is not much you can say, if you are truly BFF’s, then a hug and words like “I feel your sadness” if you do. If not, a hug and “If you need me I am here for you.” It is a death not unlike a humans, she will need time to get through all the emotions and the ups and downs. My beloved died eight years ago and I still think of her and miss her to this day. Say something like ” You gave her the best life and she loved you for it.”

* Neighbor and girlfriend Jenny (who has a cute pup named ‘Easter’!) offered this great girlfriend advice: “cry with her & make a donation in the pet’s memory to SPCA or Humane Society or a vet school. (I always make donations to Purdue’s vet school)! & look at lots of pics! :)”

* Someone else I’m proud to call my BFF, Jill, shared this (and did this for me when Stella died – I love it and it’s still in my office and kitchen!): “Make them a picture of their dog as an angel.”

* Cheryl shared: “There are never easy words for loss. What can we do: love them unconditionally, let them know they are not alone, make sure they eat, feel supported, allow them to talk and cry and talk and cry, share memories, let them know that they are not going crazy – that this loss is very real indeed. Platitudes like -things will get better – don’t work here. We grieve as deeply as we love, is a key piece here. It hurts like heck and that’s okay – we need to feel the grief and all the stages to heal.”

* Stacey recommends: “Great book called Dog Heaven. A friend gave it to me.” (There’s also Cat Heaven too!) & Dee seconds that!

* Girlfriend Gretchen can relate and shared this: “Try Good Grief: Finding Peace after Pet Loss by Sid Korpi (On Facebook too). Minneapolis author – has some nice stuff in it. Just be there for your friends – it is hard – ever so hard. It has been a year and I still miss my girl something terrible.”

Thanks so much girlfriends for sharing!

Terri, so many of us feel your pain. I loved what Cheryl said above: “We grieve as deeply as we love.” Monty was a lucky dog to be so loved! Know I’m here for you, as your girlfriends are too. HUGS!

Add your girlfriend advice on how to be a better friend to girlfriends experiencing grief over losing a pet in the comments below or on our Facebook page. And hug each other, okay? Just because!

 

p.s. Also offered were ideas of girlfriend gifts for friends dealing with the sad loss of a beloved pet. Please share your ideas for more ways to be a better friend!

 

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