How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Spouse

How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Spouse

Grief, friendship and losing a spouse, husbandFriendship, Grief and how to be there when a Friend has lost a Spouse

Grief is personal and sometimes looks as different on each person experiencing loss as the person herself. When the man she loved is gone forever, your friendship may be the only thing keeping your girlfriend going day after day. There is not a college degree or course that fully prepares us for how grief takes over. Here are a few insights of how to support a friend who has lost a spouse – to be a friend when a girlfriend has lost her husband or partner.

Stages of Grief Is Not a Checklist – You have probably heard that grief has stages, but these stages are not a checklist that once done, it’s done. Rather, grief meanders through emotions and sometimes grips us when we think we have moved beyond that phase. Usually, the early stages include mostly shock or disbelief. Even when a spouse has suffered a long illness or has lived a long and fulfilling life, she still won’t be ready for his life to be over. Eventually, she will go through some heavy-duty emotions including depression, anger, fear, and guilt. She will probably feel isolated and completely alone at times.

After the Flowers Fade – Initially, friends and family gather. There is a funeral or a memorial service, flowers and food provided by well-meaning supporters. The widow most likely won’t feel the complete sting of her loss during this initial onslaught of attention and affection. In fact, she may feel a boost of love while she puts her new reality on hold for the sake of the crowds. It’s after the gatherings are over and the crowds thin that the true need for a supportive friend will kick in.

Remember Special Occasions – After the crowds of friends and family have dwindled, that is the time to show up at her door with a meal, send a special note or arrange to go out to a movie or dinner together. Be sure to also remember her especially during the first year on every special occasion, like his birthday, their anniversary, possibly Father’s Day, Christmas or Hannukah, and New Year’s Eve.

Be on Call – It’s not just special occasions and holidays that will bring to mind memories that bring on the tears. Sometimes, a memory will hit her out of the blue and unexpected. A smell of his aftershave, a weekend spent alone, or even an unsuspecting comment will send her into an emotional flood. It’s these moments that she will need you most, but how are you to know when she is most in need of a friend? The best thing to do is to check in on her often and ask how she’s feeling. Then, offer what you can to help.

Just be There – Don’t try to make things right. Don’t try to find the right words to say. Certainly, don’t offer advice. There are no right words. She sometimes will just need someone to be there, to listen and maybe offer a hug or shoulder to cry on without judgment, advice, or the need to even speak.

Talk about Him – Allow her the freedom to remember, and don’t be afraid to laugh with her without judgment or shock at the things that may make her crack a smile when she remembers him. When you bring him up in conversation, use his name.

Help with Duties He Used to Perform – You obviously can’t step into the shoes of her husband entirely, but you can offer to assist her to events where her husband would normally attend by her side, like weddings or other functions. Additionally, some of the biggest struggles with pain occur when daily life goes on, and things that he used to do begins to need attention. For instance, if he used to change the oil in the car, pay the bills or care for the lawn, when it comes time for these chores to get done, she may have great difficulty finding the strength to do them herself, not because she is incapable of doing them but because they remind her of him. Ask what he used to handle in their relationship, and make arrangements for these tasks to be done for her.

Pay Close Attention to Signs of Depression or Suicide – Sometimes the pain of the grief feels overwhelming and too much to bear. When this happens, a healthy grieving process can go downhill fast. Look for signs of depression and get help if she begins to appear overly hopeless, lethargic, or talks about suicide.

A Few Don’ts About Grief – While knowing what to do is helpful, there are some things that are more hurtful than helpful for your grieving friend:

  • Don’t set a time limit on her grief.
  • Don’t assume you know how she feels.
  • Don’t compare grief to yours or others. Everyone grieves differently.
  • Don’t rush her to resolve her grief too soon. While some women adjust faster than others to their new normal, she will never simply get over it. Even those who move forward with life in a healthy emotional manner will experience an occasional setback.
  • Don’t give unsolicited advice.
  • Don’t chatter on about your own experiences.
  • Don’t assume you know how she feels
  • Don’t ever say, “I know how you feel.”
  • Don’t use any statement that begins with “you should” or impose flippant remarks, such as “Look at what you have to be thankful for”, “Be strong”, “You’ll get remarried someday”, “It’s part of God’s plan”, “He’s in a better place”, “Now that this is behind you, get on with your life.”
  • Don’t try to fix it! Grief is not a problem that needs to be fixed, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

While you can’t put your own life on hold completely, be ready to offer a listening ear even in the middle of the night or inopportune, inconvenient times.

If you are still at a loss as to how to comfort and offer support, ask her what she needs, and take the initiative to offer what you are able to do. Does she need help with funeral arrangements? Does she need someone to stay with her in her home for awhile? Does she need help with the housework, laundry or dishes? Does she need someone to watch her kids so she can be by herself? Does she need help going through his things for closure? Does she need help organizing insurance papers or paying medical bills? Does she need help with her pets? Does she need someone to drive her to where she needs to go? Does she need to go out to lunch or to a movie? Does she need someone to share a movie or a game night at her house? Does she need everybody to just leave her alone for awhile? Or, does she need a hug or someone to just physically be there? Does she need someone to shop for groceries or run errands? Do what you can. Just be there for your friend – as you know she would do for you! Now is a great time to be the supportive, caring friend she needs!

 

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5 Secrets to a Great Friendship

5 Secrets to a Great Friendship

FRIENDS MAKE LIFE MORE FUN

Secrets to a Great Friendship

I don’t want to imagine where I would be without girlfriends.

Think about it … life without the women who support us when we doubt ourselves, no one to share our sadness with, no friend to call on our way home from work to process the day, no BFF to share our dreams with. As the girlfriend quote says: FRIENDS MAKE LIFE A LOT MORE FUN.

I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.
Charles R. Swindoll

Female friendship is THE relationships that makes us healthier, happier, less stressed, live longer and feel more beautiful. (If Oprah sold a pill that delivered these results, EVERYONE would buy them!) So, how can we have great friendships? We’re got a few tips for girlfriends to make life a lot more fun by having friends!

5 Secrets to a Great Friendship:

1. Shut up and Listen. Sorry to be rude, but we all get busy, have things we need to tell someone, and forget to be there for our best friends. Try letting her talk first and wait until you’re sure she’s shared all that she needs to share before you start on your life. Even if your girlfriends aren’t good listeners to you, show them what it is like to have a friend who cares and who really listens.

2. Make the time, no matter what. Work will always be there, so will dirty clothes, house projects or shoe sales. What won’t always be there? Unfortunately girlfriends aren’t always there. Friends come and go, girlfriends have houses and projects and dirty clothes too. Even if it is just coffee or a walk or a phone call on the way to work. Make time for girlfriends – she deserves it and you do too.

3. It’s not the big things. A girlfriend posted on Facebook today about a funeral she just attended for a friend’s mom. The kids shared great stories about their mom. Not one story had anything about gifts she’d bought for them, expensive trips or anything monetary. They remembered the little things – how she attended their games (see #2 – made the time for them!), welcomed their friends into their home, and how she made them feel loved. It’s not the big things – gifts, expensive purchases, spoiling them with possessions – it’s about time together and the little things.

4. Give her grace. Maybe she’s not there for you right now but she has been in the past. We all have times where life messes with our friendships. Forgive her when she forgets to call you back or can’t fit you in her schedule for a week or two or three. Understand that your friendship is still important to her. Give her grace and maybe a little time. Forgive her. Friends are worth it.

5. Make an effort to make it fun. Friends make life more fun, and that’s especially true when friends get together. You make an effort for your partner and for your kids – but do you make an effort for your girlfriends? Plan a concert, a special event, a thoughtful gift, and making amazing memories together. Start a girlfriend tradition (like book club or a gourmet girlfriends group) so you see each other more often. Just make it about your friends, and make sure to make it fun.

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12 Fun Activities for Teen Girls and Friends

12 Fun Activities for Teen Girls and Friends

12 Fun Activities for Teen Girls and FriendsIsn’t it great that girlfriends help us through all phases of our lives? From pre-school playmates to life-long cherished friends, we all NEED girlfriends. And, there are tons of benefits of having girlfriends and great ways to spend time together.

Preparing for a presentation to 150 Girl Scouts next week, I found the following WikiHow info on fun activities for teen girlfriends. (But even we grown up girlfriends can get some ideas!) And here’s  5 Tips for Being a Better Teenage Friend.
Ever had a friend over and were super bored? Were you in need of some ideas? Now, before you invite your friends over make sure you’ve got a list of things to do so you will NEVER ever be bored again!

Here’s 12 Fun Activities for Teen Girls

1. Do some cooking. Invite the girls over for the afternoon and cook! Provide all the ingredients before hand, or if you want to do it differently go to the supermarket beforehand with your gals and shop together for ingredients. Before your friends arrive at your house set out all the pots and pans and such that you will need and turn the oven to the right temperature, if needed, for the recipe. When everyone gets there, blast some fun music and assign everyone to a certain task such as ‘Elizabeth does the chopping’, ‘Susan’ cleans the veggies, ‘Anna’ boils the rice, etc. Talk and have a good time! (Here’s some Cookbooks for Kids to get them started!) ** Please note – this doesn’t mean that boys can’t cook too or that girls should just do the cooking, it’s just a way teen girls to hang out, have fun, and be creative together.

2. Browse the shops! Everybody loves shopping, right? But not everybody has the money all the time to do so. Browsing is just as fun. Grab a group of two – four girls and head to the mall or another large store nearby. Walk around any store that you find interesting. Try going to a clothing store and grab an outfit to try on. If you like the outfit, go into the changing rooms together and take a picture of it. Make it extra fun by picking out outfits for each other!

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Just Dance activities for teens3. Dance the night away! Invite four – six friends over and head down to an open room and blast some music! Put on some Just Dance on the wii or your own fun music and dance the night away! Seriously, it is so much fun to dance and act crazy. Videotape it so you can watch later on to see how crazy we were dancing.

4. Make a slip ‘n’ slide and slip and slide. If the weather is hot and humid outside, what better way to have fun than to get wet? Invite your friends over for a watery day. Make a slip ‘n’ slide by putting a plastic tarp on a hill. Make sure you pin it into place so it doesn’t blow away! Then get the hose and pour nonstop water onto it while your girls and you slide down. Have a friendly water balloon fight afterward and dry off with towels, lemonade, and, yum!, brownies.

5. Get moving. Have a group of nine friends head to the park with you for some softball! Play fair! Or you could have relay races! Biking is another good activity to do with a group of two or three friends. Or rent a double-bike and go biking with your BFF.

6. Take pictures of your day and evening. Invite over three friends and take tons of pictures of you girls together. Then make a scrapbook! Fun! (Here’s a fun Hello Kitty Scrapbook kit!)

7. Practice being a fashion model. Dress up in really fun clothes and do each other’s make-up. You will look really crazy when it’s all done. Then set up a long blanket and walk down the “red carpet” and afterward drink champagne (sparkling cider) and veggies and dip. (And, everyone is coloring these days! Check out this Teen Fashion Design Chic Coloring Book!)

8. Do karaoke! Have a karaoke night with your BFF’s. Sing your lungs out and have them videotape it. Make up crazy dance moves and just act goofy. It’s really fun, seriously.

9. Pamper your pet. This may sound weird, but having doggie spa night is actually fun. Invite your BFF and her dog over and do a spa night for your two dogs. But, you do need an easy-going dog to do this. Paint their nails, put their hair up in pigtails, and dress them up in scarves, hats, sunglasses, etc. Or just do a photo shoot with the pets and share with your friends.

10. Have a night of bracelet making kits for teen girls and bowling. You don’t have to be good to have fun at bowling. Bring a bracelet making set and a group of friends to the bowling alley and bowl. While the others are bowling everyone else makes friendship bracelets and so on! It’s really fun.

11. Whatever you do, have fun with it. Smile, laugh (after all, laughing is the best medicine), and make the most of everything.

12. Make your own facial scrub. Mix sea salt and sugar together with enough olive oil to make a paste thick enough for you to scoop it, but thin enough for you to easily spread over the face and neck. Gently exfoliate the skin with the salt-sugar-oil mixture for up to one minute. Rinse off with warm water.

  • Apply a warm wet towel over the face and neck area to open up the pores. Let set for up to 30 seconds, or for as long as it is comfortable.
  • Mash a banana or avocado. Apply this mask to the face and neck, and let set for 15 minutes. Wipe off, then rinse the face with warm water.
  • Repeat Step Two, applying a warm wet towel over the face and neck area.
  • Create a paste with the baking soda, lemon juice and warm water. As in Step One, it should be thick enough for you to scoop it, but thin enough for you to easily spread over the face and neck. Gently cleanse the face for up to one minute. Rinse with warm water.
  • Close the pores by splashing the face and neck area with cold water.

How to Have Fun with Your Friends (Teen Girls) – wikiHow with our additional notes and ideas.

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10 Ways to make the New Year wonderful & filled with friends! – New Years Resolutions

10 Ways to make the New Year wonderful & filled with friends! – New Years Resolutions

Cheers to a new year Oprah quoteCheers to a New Year & another chance for us to get it right. – Oprah Winfrey

Do you make New Year Resolutions? And, do you usually keep them?

‘Tis the season for challenging ourselves to be healthier, exercise more and eat less, to read more and watch TV less, to learn a new skill or improve one, to drink more water and possibly less wine, to be a better person and, in the spirit of Girlfriendology, to BE A BETTER FRIEND. (right? RIGHT?!) 🙂

Resolutions are our annual way to try and make us healthier and happier. Having great girlfriends does the same! The fact is: female friendships lower our blood pressure, reduce stress, make us feel more beautiful and help us live longer! So, why not prioritize friendships as resolution-worthy?

As you consider your New Year’s resolutions, think about these ideas to make the coming year healthy, happy and filled with friends:

  1. 1. Start a girlfriend group – Make getting together with your girlfriends a regular event. Start a book club, knitting group or monthly dinner get-together.
  2. 2. Re-connect with long-distance friends – Find them through Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram or Switchboard. Make contact and stay in touch. Share photos, memories and updates with the people in your life with whom you share a past and make them part of your future. Who was your best friend in high school – look her up and laugh about old times together.
  3. 3. Establish a habit of friendship – Call a girlfriend every Sunday night or plan a regular lunch date with a local gal pal. Start a girlfriend group and send email updates every Friday so you all know what everyone is up to. Or, plan a happy hour every month and invite all your girlfriends. I promise you’ll look forward to this get-together!New Years Resolution Friendship
  4. 4. Celebrate girlfriends – Commit to sending a birthday card or calling all your girlfriends on their special day. Let them know you’re thinking of them and how much their friendship means to you. Start out by writing down all your friends’ birthdays. Check for birthdays on Facebook and other social media sites for birthday calendars.
  5. 5. Volunteer or take a class with your girlfriends – This is a great New Year’s resolution because you’re doing good – for yourself and/or others. Plan time where you help others or learn together by volunteering or taking classes. Or give back to others in your community through starting a non-profit organization or educating others about great causes/information.
  6. 6. Get Social Online – Start a blog about your life and your friendships. Get your girlfriends involved by asking them to contribute or at least read and comment on it. Post your updates, thoughts, activities, photos and share girlfriend advice others would appreciate. Write a guest blog on your friendships or girlfriend advice for Girlfriendology. Build your online friendships. Often these friendships are just as tight as with friends who live close by.
  7. Meet new friends – Decide to get out more in the coming year and find new friends. Join an organization, introduce yourself to your neighbors, participate in a local charity or group. Network for work connections but also for future friends.
  8. Start a fun girlfriend tradition – Start a tradition of having a party or getting together with your girlfriends for a fun event. Host an Oscars gala or plan a Summer Solstice party. Or find a ‘strange’ day and celebrate it (National Hat Day – Jan. 15, No Socks Day – May 8, Creative Ice Cream Flavor Day – July 1, or Sept. 17– Wear Something Gaudy Day!). Just make it a tradition, take photos and have fun.
  9. Start (and keep) an Exercise Routine with Friends – The best way to stay motivated to workout, is to do it with a friend. I know this for a fact, from experience. Want to skip a day? Your friend(s) will ‘encourage’ you to join them. Added bonus: you’ll get to spend more time with your friend(s). Great benefits of fitness friends!
  10. Create Memories – Create a ‘bucket list’ of things you’ve never done but always dreamed of doing. Now find friends to accompany you on adventurous list checking events. Longed to go sky- or scuba-diving – find girlfriends to join you and make it even more memorable.

As Oprah says … Cheers to a New Year & another chance for us to get it right …

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Make the coming year THE YEAR you BE A BETTER FRIEND. You won’t regret it. Make the resolution to be the kind of friend you’d love to have. It’s going to be a GREAT YEAR!

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25 Cheer up Texts for Friends – Girlfriend Inspiration

25 Cheer up Texts for Friends – Girlfriend Inspiration

25 Texts to cheer up a friendNeed a cheer up message for a friend? Want to send an encouraging text to cheer up your friend? You’ve come to the right place!

 “When it rains, it pours … but soon, the sun shines again. Better days are ahead.”

That just might be the cheer up text that a friend needs to receive.

When you love someone as a friend (or more than a friend), you want them to be happy – right? Sometimes that isn’t the case when they’re going through tough situations or just dealing with more than they’d like. It might be just a bad day, or a sad day, or a rough month/year/decade. What’s important is letting her know that you’re there and that you care. Our friends look to us for encouragement and support – let’s be the kind of friend who provides it! Let’s be the friend who sends cheer up text messages!

Cheer up friendship sms quoteSeems like everyone sends texts/IMs these days. Within a minute or two, you can brighten her day, make her smile, and let her know you’re thinking about her. You can command Siri (or whomever) to write it for you (well, you do have to say it). You can send her an inspiring quote (see ideas below or check out these quotes) or a funny photo/emoji (app below). There are lots of ways you can use technology, apps, SMS/texts to be a better friend and cheer up a friend – which is our goal here on Girlfriendology! (Here’s another 25 text messages to cheer up a friend!)

Copy from the following Cheer Up Text messages / SMS / IMs or share the quotes/images. Or personalize these cheer up messages to your girlfriend. The only thing that really matters is that you show her how much you care and how you’re there to cheer up your friend!Cheer up SMS Text IM

25 Cheer up Texts for Friends:

1. Just tell her you’re thinking about her: “Hope things are good for you today. Know I’m here and I care. Love you!” might be all that it takes to cheer her up!

2. Cheer up IM SMS Text emoji thinking about youEveryone likes to feel admired: “I don’t tell you often enough, but you really are amazing and very special to me. Thanks for being my friend. I’m here if/when you need me.”

3. Everyone loves a compliment, right? Make her feel pretty and loved with a text/IM like: “I hope your day is as nice as your butt” – or something equally silly 🙂 (Love this keychain that says that – would make a great cheer up gift 🙂

4. Short and sweet: “You’re in my thoughts (and prayers). Hang in there!”

5. Acknowledge the tough situation: “I know – life isn’t fair sometimes. I’m here and I care.

6. Send long distance love: “Distance can’t separate us. You’re close in my thoughts and prayers.

7. Be honest: “Unfortunately, there’s no way around sadness, but through it. I’m here and will be whenever you need me.Cheer up SMS IM text you can do it

8. Just a simple reminder: “No matter how tough things are, I have so much faith in you. You are amazing and will be okay.”

9. Send a fun personalized emoji Girlfriend i love you this much emoiji(App info below) to create a fun reminder that you: “I love you THIS MUCH!: (Sent by my BFF Cath)

10. Remind her that SHE CAN DO IT with a graphic like this one –> (Made with the app below)

11. More emoji’s: Cheer up! or ‘Thinkin bout you’ (Plus, she’ll love seeing your personalized emoji!)

12. Sometimes we all lose faith in ourselves. Remind her that you never question her strength with a short but so cherished message of: “Just so you know, I have faith in you. You’ll be okay. You’re stronger than you know.”

13. Send a fun photo that you have of her and you together. Tell her how much you value her and her friendship.

14. Completely make her day! Tell her three things you love about her, like: “I love how you go after your dreams like the 100-mile bike ride you did! I love how you work so hard to make your community better. I love how you make me laugh when we talk. Thanks for the gift of your friendship!”Start your free trial now!

INSPIRING QUOTES TO SHARE:

15. “When it rains, sometimes it pours. The sun always comes out again and it will. Better days are ahead.” – use the graphic above.

16. Share this scripture for Christian Girlfriends:  “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” Romans 8:28

17. Or this scripture:  “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord.  Plans Life doesnt have to be perfect friendship inspirational quoteto prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

18. Or this scripture:  “Rejoice in our confident hope.  Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” Romans 12:12

19. Every day on Instagram.com/Girlfriendology we post beautiful friendship quotes and you can send them to friends. Just find a quote that you like, and send it to any of your friends on Instagram. Like: “You yourself, deserve love and affection as much as anyone in the entire universe.”

20. Send these quotes to friends (available on the Girlfriendology Instagram page too): “There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you know.” (Winnie the Pooh – was a very wise bear!)

21. A great, inspiring quote for a great, inspiring cheer up SMS / Cheer up Text: “Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful” Annette Funicello.Friendship quote a true friend is there for you

22. Remind her that you’re a true friend with this friendship quote: “A true friend will be there for you when she’d rather be anywhere else.” Tell her that you’re there for her – no matter what!

23. Share this quote and tell her how much you enjoy her friendship and wish for her happiness:It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy that makes HAPPINESS.

Don't let yesterday take up too much of today friendship inspiration quote24. Remind her, like the image below states, to: Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today. 🙂

25. Cheer up a friend with this quote: “Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.” Charlie Chaplin

So, that’s 25 texts to cheer up a Friend. What texts cheer you or a friend up? Share below!

* I used BITMOJI (app) to create these personalized emoji messages. It’s a fun, creative app that lets you easily send a personalized cheer up text! She’ll love seeing you pop up in her texts/IMs.

What’s your favorite App for sending cheer up texts to friends? How do you encourage your friends? Share below!

(Here’s another 25 text messages to cheer up a friend!)Cheer up text nothing is permanent

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Gifts to Cheer Up a Friend:

Show your love, encouragement and support with these cheer up gifts for friends!Cheer up book girlfriend gift

Cheer Up Book – “A fun compendium of happy quotes that will help lift anyone out of the dumps

Hang in There Cheer UP Gift BasketHealthy and unique gift basket is full of nuts and seeds to help boost spirits naturally – Who knew? Or this Cheer Up Healthy Gift Basket – and in case of emergency, send her this AWESOME CHOCOLATE Gift Basket 🙂

FUN Cheer Up Wine Label Set – sure to bring a smile to her face!

Chicken Soup for the Girlfriend’s Soul: Celebrating the Friends Who Cheer Us Up, Cheer Us On and Make Our Lives Complete

Keep Hangin’ In There Care PackageFilled with indulgent treats, two plush monkey friends, and a puzzle book for pleasant distraction, this gift box is sure to make your friend grin as she squishes the smile right off the happy stress ball’s face:)

And, eCards full of encouragement and support! Like these …

Cheer up cards encouragement support eCards

A Free Resource Library of Great Girlfriend Advice?!

  • Celebration Ideas & checklists
  • Friendly Financial Advice
  • Tempting Travel tips
  • FREE eBooks
  • Coloring book pages
  • Quotes to share with Friends 
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  • 150 Friendship Quotes
  • 3 FREE eBooks - including Resumes & Cover Letters
  • 2 Inspirational Quote Coloring Book Pages
  • JUST ADDED: Tips to make Grocery Shopping Easier
  • Girlfriend Trip Beach Recommendations
  • Money-saving Tips & Sites
  • & more!!