Not enough time? 3 Impromptu Ways to see your Girlfriends

Not enough time? 3 Impromptu Ways to see your Girlfriends

time friendship quoteI met my girlfriends for Happy Hour tonight. We haven’t seen each other for too long and while we talk about getting together more, it is really hard to do when we all have jobs, lives, schedules that completely fill our lives almost 24/7. (Can you relate?)

We decided, over our second glass of wine and countless shared updates and laughs, that we HAVE to get together more often. HAVE to.

While we’d love to be on a schedule of making time for each other every week or every other week, or even once a month, we know our crazy lives. That is tough to do.

But what works for us sometimes? IMPROMPTU gatherings. A shared text with plans to meet. An opening in our schedule that gives us room to see each other.

It made me think. As the quote says: The way we spend our TIME defines who we are. It totally does. How we spend our limited extra hours is a great indication of what our priorities are, what – or WHO – is important to us.

So, in the spirit of my girlfriends and my assumption that you and your girlfriends might face a similar challenge of getting together, here are:

3 ideas of impromptu Girlfriend Get-togethers

1. Combining Tasks with Friends – You know the situation. You have so much to do that you spend all weekend running errands to catch up before another crazy week of work or plans. Right?! Why not ask a friend to join you? Groceries? She probably needs to go shopping too. Picking up dry cleaning, a run to the pet food store, clean out your closet, even weeding the garden – all things that are much more enjoyable when they’re with a friend – just ask!

3. Try a new time/plan – On our recent Friday off work, my BFF Barb texted me about meeting for lunch. It was mid-morning and a time we normally don’t even think of meeting up with a friend. It worked out perfectly and probably wouldn’t have if we’d planned ahead. Evenings not good for her and days not good for you – find a compromise and plan a weekend coffee date or a Friday night time for just the girls. You never know when you might start a new girlfriend tradition!

3. What-the-Hell Planning – I often say when I speak on social media marketing, I believe in the WTH marketing. WTH – TRY it! I also believe in WTH planning with friends. The next time you have a spare ticket to a play or concert, or hear about a new restaurant, or want to explore a new store – text or call a friend. She just may have time on her schedule. And, if she doesn’t, find another friend to join you. Don’t hold it against anyone if they can’t go – just trust that they’d rather be going somewhere with you and call them the next time.

So, girlfriend – who will your next impromptu girlfriend get-together be and with whom? Make time for your girlfriends. They are totally worth it. Inspire your friends with your impromptu planning and maybe they’ll surprise you as well with an impromptu girlfriend get-together. Life is short – spend time with your girlfriends!

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Dear Girlfriend who Feels Overwhelmed, Girlfriend Advice on Reducing Stress

Dear Girlfriend who Feels Overwhelmed, Girlfriend Advice on Reducing Stress

Dear Girlfriend,

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is your TO DO list TOO BIG? Do you feel like your schedule, home and life are out of control? Does stress keep you up at night?

As a girlfriend who cares, and who wants to help you be a better friend, we want to share some girlfriend advice to help you – and we invite you to share your suggestions and stories in the comments below!

Taxes looming, a new home to decorate and fix up, a list of problems and projects, two jobs and a desire to maintain my friendships … I know the feeling! I’m overwhelmed and, to be honest, I’m just like you … feeling stressed.Very stressed.

Albert Einstein said:

“When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.”

If you know me personally, you know that I spin. Usually about 7 hours/wk – more if I can. Some might call it an addiction, but I call it ‘therapy.’ When I work toward SOMETHING beneficial, it helps me feel hopeful, hopeful that I’ll accomplish my goals in other areas as well. When I’ve been at my lowest point, my highest stress, my least hopeful moment … something, ANYTHING, positive was a move in the right direction, a way of ‘working to make things better.’ Each day was a new day, and a spinning class at least meant I’d accomplished SOMETHING beneficial that day.

When you’re overwhelmed, it’s the little things … the little things that can move you toward a less stressed life. The moments of the day that hopefully add up to making things better.

You are not alone, overwhelmedThe major part of my ‘therapeutic’ spinning? That I spin with a group of friends. We check in on each other if we don’t show up. (We’ve been known to send pictures of lonely bikes to guilt our spin friends into being there the following day.) In fact, last week I thought we weren’t spinning and got a text that Lisa was there waiting on me. What did I do? I got in my car and went to spin with a friend!

I’ve found, these 5 Things to Help when you Feel Overwhelmed:

1. BREATHE. Stop. Deep breath. Close your eyes. Another deep breath. If you can, put your timer on five or ten minutes and sit on your couch or lay on the floor, and just breathe deep. Concentrate on you. Don’t go over all the things you have to do, give yourself a break to just breathe! Shavasana yoga girls!

2. Do SOMETHING Productive. Like my spin class is to me, get off the couch and take a walk,  take a yoga class or do yoga to a video on YouTube. Check off one item on your list, SOMETHING. Whatever you can look back on at the end of the day and know you’ve accomplished something productive. You don’t have to be Einstein to know that doing something productive will make you feel better.

3. Make a LIST. Make a PLAN. I’m a big list-maker. It helps me remember things. It also can help me combine errands, plan my day. Get on a schedule of reviewing your list in the morning, re-assessing your goals/strategy on Mondays – whatever works for you. Just come up with a plan to make it through this stressful time.

4. Volunteer. Help someone else. Nothing like focusing on others to re-set your thoughts and mood. Even at my most overwhelmed, stressed, challenging day – it’s got to be better than the young girl with the dog who holds a sign asking for money. It’s definitely better than the friend dealing with cancer or the loss of a parent or loved one. Better yet, grab a friend and start the girlfriend tradition of volunteering together – do good and have fun with a friend!

5. (Our favorite here at Girlfriendology!) Phone a Friend. Phone the friend who is calming, caring, supportive, positive. Choose to either tell her about your situation and ask for her help, advice. OR just have a fun conversation. Laugh together. Share your lives. It will help. Guaranteed.

I’m sorry that you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s not an easy feeling to shake. It’s the thing that keeps you (and me!) awake in the middle of the night. It’s the excuse we have for snacking, for being short with others, for retreating from our friends.

Did you know that female friendship reduces stress? It does. There are studies that prove it. (Like the book, The Tending Instinct.) We’re not suggesting that a few minutes with a friend will remove ALL your stress and eliminate the feeling of being overwhelmed. But, it will help. And, it may be just what you need to give you a reprieve from the feeling of being overwhelmed.

Try it. Make whatever arrangements you need to make to plan a night with a girlfriend. (It could be a group of friends but make sure that the dynamics will be very supportive of you and your current ‘dilemma’ of stress and the feeling of being overwhelmed.) Get your most supportive girlfriend(s), and plan a night of just plain and simple ‘girlfriend therapy.’ There’s nothing else like it for reducing stress, for reducing the feeling of being overwhelmed.

Try it. Then share about it below.

So, Dear Girlfriend who is feeling overwhelmed – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You have your friends.

They’ll be there for you when you’re stressed. They’ll remind you to be hopeful and that you can accomplish things toward your goals, they’ll help keep your dreams alive, they’ll hug you and make you laugh when you wanted to cry.

How do YOU deal with being overwhelmed? What’s your girlfriend advice? Share below!

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Christmas morning erma bombeck quoteThere’s nothing sadder in this world than to awake Christmas morning and not be a child.  ~Erma Bombeck

Merry Christmas Girlfriend!

‘Tis the season for LOVE, HOPE, PEACE and JOY – and sharing those feelings with the friends and family who mean the most to us!

We’re celebrating by sharing some inspiring quotes on this holiday season to remind us all about the true meaning of friendship, family and love. Enjoy these HOLIDAY QUOTES and please share with a friend. They’re our little ‘gift’ to you to show you how much we appreciate YOU and how much your friends appreciate you too! (& see below for more Favorite Quotes to share with a Friend!)

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One of the most glorious messes in the world is the mess created in the living room on Christmas day. Don’t clean it up too quickly. – Andy Rooney

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The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other. – Burton Hillis

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One of the most glorious messes in the world is the mess created in the living room on Christmas day. Don’t clean it up too quickly. – Andy Rooney

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Girlfriend Advice for Tough Situations | How to be A Better Friend

Girlfriend Advice for Tough Situations | How to be A Better Friend

How to be there for a Friend going through a Tough SituationThere are lots of situations that we women face that are tough. That’s life, right? Thankfully we have our friends to help us through tough situations – like losing a parent or the loss of a child, dealing with cancer, the death of a beloved pet, and more.

It’s true: “Walking with a FRIEND in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.” – Helen Keller

YES. Helen Keller. The woman who knew what it meant to walk in the dark and be completely alone. She knew the value of a friend, especially in the dark.

Over the ten+ years of Girlfriendology, we’ve shared girlfriend advice for tough situations like these. Our commitment is to inspire women to be better friends – and to be there in the good and not-so-good times.

It’s not always easy when friends go through difficult times. We get that. But, as a friend, they NEED you to be supportive, kind, caring, and attentive. Here’s some girlfriend advice on many of the challenges in life that we and our friends deal with.

 

That’s why we’re here – to inspire you to BE A BETTER FRIEND – even, and especially, when life hands you or a girlfriend tough situations.

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Thankful Thursday: Practice Thanksgiving

Thankful Thursday: Practice Thanksgiving

Practice Thanksgiving“The way anything is developed, is through practice practice practice practice practice practice practice practice practice and more practice.”
Joyce Meyer

Every Thursday we celebrate what we call ‘Thankful Thursday.’ It’s a time each week where we like to stop and focus on gratitude and especially gratitude for girlfriends. This week, we’re celebrating November and this month of Thanksgiving. What does ‘practice’ have to do with Thankful Thursday? Read and find out!

A woman walks up to a street musician in New York City and asks: “How do I get to Carnegie Hall?” The musician answers, “Practice.”

Mention the word “practice” and almost sure to get groans from kids asked to play never-ending piano scales, athletes running endless drills, or salespeople rehearsing their can’t miss sales presentation for the umpteenth time.

The simple truth is, there is no success, without practice. Practice means continually learning from personal experience, from repeating the same right things over and over again. Nothing is ever perfect, so keep practicing.

So today is a Thursday. A Thursday in November. No, it’s not THE Thursday in November, yet, and that’s good. That means we still have time to practice – Thanksgiving.

I’m not talking about practicing culinary crafts or eating or watching football or napping after the big meal. I’m talking about practicing Thanksgiving as in practicing giving thanks, as in showing special gratitude for anything and everything and everyone involved in this special celebration.

Practice now and there’s no reason to be put on the spot sitting at the dinner table on Thanksgiving Day when the question comes up: “What are you most thankful for?”

You’ll be ready. Because you practiced now.

Put yourself in an attitude of gratitudeThink today, right now. What were you most grateful for? How might you share that story? Go ahead, practice. Actively, purposely and willingly think of how you will show a little thankfulness, a little gratitude throughout the event. Refine in your mind, how you’re going to make this occasion special for everyone. Put yourself in an attitude of gratitude, then practice your ways of showing gratitude in everything that you do.

Think in detail of how this Thanksgiving will go, envision it in your mind. Play it out, the people you’ll be interacting with, the conversations you’ll have, the opportunities that will present themselves for you to show your gratitude. You might plan something to show gratitude for everyone on your Thanksgiving list. Envision what may happen and plan for it, make it memorable and special, and work through over or around any obstacles (we know there’s always the chance) weeks before you encounter them.

If you ask anyone who is really good at anything how they became so, they will say, practice. Practice will reveal what you’re good at, and make you better.

November is the perfect month to focus on giving thanks and showing gratitude. So fall in love with your practice, and practice today so that your Thanksgiving gratitude performance is perfection.
No groans, girlfriend. Practice.

We’re thankful, not just on Thursdays, but every day, for your time and support. Thanks for allowing Girlfriendology into your day. We hope it makes you more grateful of your girlfriends and reminds you that the important things in life aren’t things.

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